I’m Teressa Moore Griffin with more
practical tips to help you live and lead with a spirit of purpose. We live in a society where passing judgment on other people and situations is a favorite pastime. We’ve been at it for so long, and do it
so often, that it’s an unconscious reflex. Experts say it’s a holdover from the
early human evolutionary periods when we needed to make snap judgments about whether the approaching thing was going to eat us or not. In most cases, today it serves no purpose. Admittedly, there are situations where
it’s good to size someone up before they can do us harm, but, when it comes to being a constant superficial judging that’s going on, a habit in which most of us engage way too frequently, we’re better off without it. So check yourself. Think about it. How many times a day do you find yourself looking at another person or thinking about a situation and suddenly you’re feeling impatient, angry, annoyed, critical. Critical commentary is running in the
background. How many times a day do you find yourself looking at a total stranger, or someone you know and judging them, criticizing them in your mind or
maybe even out loud. Working yourself up over what a total stranger, neighbor, colleague or loved one is saying or doing, or a situation that you can’t control or doesn’t concern you is a habit that plagues many of us. When we give in to the unhealthy habit of being judgemental, our blood pressure spikes, our
heart starts to race, the tension in our face and around our eyes intensifies, our chest muscles tighten. Our cells are floating in a chemical
bath of negative emotions. Nearly all of us engage in the bad habit of wasting valuable time and expending emotional energy that benefits no one — especially not ourselves. I’ve consciously decided to turn the tide in my life by exercising more control over my mind and emotions in this area. In the same way people use mindfulness techniques to reduce stress, I’m using the same techniques to become conscience of when I’m judging others and interrupt the process. Since judging is such an involuntary reaction, it’s hard to head it off at the pass, but as soon as I realize what I’m doing, I stop. Instantly, I feel my negativity melt away. My shoulders lower, my eyes soften, my
disposition lightens and I sometimes even find myself smiling ever so
slightly, finding pleasure in letting go of a habit that serves no one — especially me. Give it a try. I guarantee you’ll feel the difference, too. For more videos, podcasts and articles that will help you uncover your passion and live according
to your unique purpose, visit my web site, spiritofpurpose.com. You can also subscribe to my “Office Talk” podcast on iTunes, or to my video channel on YouTube. I’m Teresa Moore Griffin.
Thank you for watching.