Quit social media | Dr. Cal Newport | TEDxTysons

Translator: Peter van de Ven
Reviewer: Denise RQ You probably don’t realize that right now, you’re actually
looking at something quite rare. Because I am a millennial
computer scientist book author standing on a TEDx stage, and yet, I’ve never had
a social media account. How this happened
was actually somewhat random. Social media first came onto my radar
when I was at college, my sophomore year of college, this is when Facebook
arrived at our campus. And at the time, which was
right after the first dotcom bust, I had had a dorm room business,
I’d had to shut it down in the bust, and then, suddenly, this other kid
from Harvard, named Mark, had this product called Facebook
and people being excited about it. So in sort of a fit of somewhat
immature professional jealousy, I said, “I’m not going to use this thing. I won’t help this kid’s business;
whatever’s going to amount to.” As I go along my life,
I look up not long later, and I see everyone I know
is hooked on this thing. And from the clarity you can get when you have some objectivity,
some perspective on it, I realized this seems
a little bit dangerous. So I never signed up. I’ve never had
a social media account since. So I’m here for two reasons;
I want to deliver two messages. The first message I want to deliver is that even though I’ve never had
a social media account, I’m OK, you don’t have to worry. It turns out I still have friends, I still know what’s going on in the world; as a computer scientist I still collaborate with people
all around the world, I’m still regularly exposed
serendipitously to interesting ideas, and I rarely describe myself
as lacking entertainment options. So I’ve been OK,
but I’d go even farther and say not only I am OK without social media
but I think I’m actually better off. I think I’m happier, I think I find
more sustainability in my life, and I think I’ve been
more successful professionally because I don’t use social media. So my second goal here on stage is try to convince more of you
to believe the same thing. Let’s see if I could actually
convince more of you that you too would be better off
if you quit social media. So, if the theme of this TEDx event
is “Future Tense,” I guess, in other words,
this would be my vision of the future, would be one in which fewer people
actually use social media. That’s a big claim,
I think I need to back it up. So I thought, what I would do is take the three most
common objections I hear when I suggest to people
that they quit social media, and then for each of these objections,
I’ll try to defuse the hype and see if I can actually
push in some more reality. This is the first
most common objection I hear. That’s not a hermit, that’s actually a hipster web developer
down from 8th Street; I’m not sure. Hipster or hermit?
Sometimes it’s hard to tell. This first objection goes as follows, “Cal, social media is one
of the fundamental technologies of the 21st century. To reject social media would be
an act of extreme [bloodism]. It would be like riding to work
on a horse or using a rotary phone. I can’t take
such a big stance in my life.” My reaction to that objection
is I think that is nonsense. Social media is not
a fundamental technology. It leverages
some fundamental technologies, but it’s better understood as this. Which is to say,
it’s a source of entertainment, it’s an entertainment product. The way that technologist
Jaron Lanier puts it is that these companies
offer you shiny treats in exchange for minutes of your attention
and bites of your personal data, which can then be packaged up and sold. So to say that you don’t use social media
should not be a large social stance, it’s just rejecting one form
of entertainment for others. There should be no more
controversial than saying, “I don’t like newspapers,
I like to get my news from magazines,” or “I prefer to watch cable series,
as opposed to network television series.” It’s not a major political
or social stance to say you don’t use this product. My use of the slot machine image
up here also is not accidental because if you look a little bit closer
at these technologies, it’s not just that they’re
a source of entertainment but they’re a somewhat
unsavory source of entertainment. We now know that many
of the major social media companies hire individuals
called attention engineers, who borrow principles
from Las Vegas casino gambling, among other places, to try to make these products
as addictive as possible. That is the desired
use case of these products: is that you use it in an addictive fashion
because that maximizes the profit that can be extracted
from your attention and data. So it’s not a fundamental technology, it’s just a source of entertainment,
one among many, and it’s somewhat unsavory
if you look a little bit closer. Here’s the second common objection I hear when I suggest that people
quit social media. The objection goes as follows, “Cal, I can’t quit social media because it is vital to my success
in the 21st century economy. If I do not have a well-cultivated
social media brand, people won’t know who I am,
people won’t be able to find me, opportunities won’t come my way, and I will effectively
disappear from the economy.” Again my reaction is once again: this objection also is nonsense. I recently published this book that draws on multiple
different strands of evidence to make the point that,
in a competitive 21st century economy, what the market values is the ability to produce things
that are rare and are valuable. If you produce something
that’s rare and valuable, the market will value that. What the market dismisses,
for the most part, are activities that are easy to replicate
and produce a small amount of value. Well, social media use is the epitome of an easy to replicate activity
that doesn’t produce a lot of value; it’s something that any six-year-old
with a smartphone can do. By definition, the market is not going to give
a lot of value to those behaviors. It’s instead going to reward
the deep, concentrated work required to build real skills and to apply
those skills to produce things – like a craftsman – that are rare and that are valuable. To put it another way:
if you can write an elegant algorithm, if you can write a legal brief
that can change a case, if you can write a thousand words of prose that’s going to fixate
a reader right to the end; if you can look at a sea of ambiguous data and apply statistics,
and pull out insights that could transform a business strategy, if you can do these type of activities
which require deep work, that produce outcomes
that are rare and valuable, people will find you. You will be able to write your own ticket, and build the foundation of a meaningful
and successful professional life, regardless of how many
Instagram followers you have. This is the third comment objection I hear when I suggest to people
that they quit social media; in some sense, I think it might be
one of the most important. This objection goes as follows, “Cal, maybe I agree, maybe you’re right;
it’s not a fundamental technology. Maybe using social media is not
at the core of my professional success. But, you know what? It’s harmless, I have some fun on it
– weird: Twitter’s funny – I don’t even use it that much,
I’m a first adopter, it’s kind of interesting to try it out, and maybe I might miss out
something if I don’t use it. What’s the harm?” Again, I look back and I say:
this objection also is nonsense. In this case, what it misses is
what I think is a very important reality that we need to talk about more frankly, which is that social media brings with it multiple, well-documented,
and significant harms. We actually have to confront
these harms head-on when trying to make decisions about whether or not
we embrace this technology and let it into our lives. One of these harms
that we know this technology brings has to do with your professional success. I just argued before
that the ability to focus intensely, to produce things
that are rare and valuable, to hone skills the market place value on, that this is
what will matter in our economy. But right before that, I argued that social media tools
are designed to be addictive. The actual designed
desired-use case of these tools is that you fragment your attention
as much as possible throughout your waking hours; that’s how these tools
are designed to use. We have a growing amount
of research which tells us that if you spend
large portions of your day in a state of fragmented attention – large portions of your day,
breaking up your attention, to take a quick glance, to just check,
– “Let me quickly look at Instagram” – that this can permanently reduce
your capacity for concentration. In other words, you could
permanently reduce your capacity to do exactly the type of deep effort that we’re finding to be
more and more necessary in an increasingly competitive economy. So social media use is not harmless, it can actually have
a significant negative impact on your ability to thrive in the economy. I’m especially worried about this
when we look at the younger generation, which is the most saturated
in this technology. If you lose your ability
to sustain concentration, you’re going to become less and less
relevant to this economy. There’s also psychological harms
that are well documented that social media brings,
that we do need to address. We know from the research literature
that the more you use social media, the more likely you are
to feel lonely or isolated. We know that the constant exposure to your friends carefully curated,
positive portrayals of their life can leave you to feel inadequate,
and can increase rates of depression. And something I think we’re going to be
hearing more about in the near future is that there’s a fundamental mismatch between the way our brains are wired and this behavior
of exposing yourself to stimuli with intermittent rewards
throughout all of your waking hours. It’s one thing to spend a couple of hours
at a slot machine in Las Vegas, but if you bring one with you,
and you pull that handle all day long, from when you wake up to when you go
to bed: we’re not wired from it. It short-circuits the brain, and we’re starting to find
it has actual cognitive consequences, one of them being this sort of
pervasive background hum of anxiety. The canary in the coal mine for this issue
is actually college campuses. If you talk to mental health experts
on college campuses, they’ll tell you that along with the rise
of ubiquitous smartphone use and social media use
among the students on the campus, came an explosion of anxiety-related
disorders on those campuses. That’s the canary in the coal mine. This type of behavior
is a mismatch for our brain wiring and can make you feel miserable. So there’s real cost to social media use; which means when you’re trying to decide,
“Should I use this or not?”, saying it’s harmless is not enough. You actually have to identify
a significantly positive, clear benefit that can outweigh these potential,
completely non-trivial harms. People often ask, “OK, but what is life like
without social media?” That can actually be
a little bit scary to think about. According to people
who went through this process, there can be a few difficult weeks. It actually is like a true detox process. The first two weeks can be uncomfortable: you feel a little bit anxious,
you feel like you’re missing a limb. But after that, things settle down, and actually, life after social media
can be quite positive. There’s two things I can report back
from the world of no social media use. First, it can be quite productive. I’m a professor at a research institution,
I’ve written five books, I rarely work past 5 pm on a weekday. Part of the way I’m trying
to able to pull that off is because it turns out,
if you treat your attention with respect, – so you don’t fragment it;
you allow it to stay whole, you preserve your concentration – when it comes time to work you can do one thing after another,
and do it with intensity, and intensity can be traded for time. It’s surprising how much
you can get done in a eight-hour day if you’re able to give each thing
intense concentration after another. Something else I can report back
from life without social media is that outside of work,
things can be quite peaceful. I often joke I’d be very comfortable
being a 1930s farmer, because if you look at my leisure time, I read the newspaper
while the sun comes up; I listen to baseball on the radio; I honest-to-god sit in a leather chair and read hardcover books at night
after my kids go to bed. It sounds old-fashioned,
but they were onto something back then. It’s actually a restorative, peaceful way
to actually spend your time out of work. You don’t have
the constant hum of stimuli, and the background hum of anxiety
that comes along with that. So life without social media
is really not so bad. If you pull together these threads,
you see my full argument that not everyone, but certainly
much more people than right now, much more people
should not be using social media. That’s because we can first, to summarize, discard with the main concerns that it’s a fundamental
technology you have to use. Nonsense: it’s a slot machine
in your phone. We can discard with this notion
that you won’t get a job without it. Nonsense: anything a six-year-old
with a smartphone can do is not going to be
what the market rewards. And then I emphasized the point
that there’s real harms with it. So it’s not just harmless. You really would have to have
a significant benefit before you would say
this trade-off is worth it. Finally I noted,
that life without social media: there’s real positives associated with it. So I’m hoping that when many of you
actually go through this same calculus, you’ll at least consider
the perspective I’m making right now, which is: many more people
would be much better off if they didn’t use this technology. Some of you might disagree, some of you might have scathing
but accurate critiques of me and my points, and of course, I welcome
all negative feedback. I just ask that you direct
your comments towards Twitter. Thank you. (Applause)

100 Responses

  1. JamKrisPOP says:

    The only reason I don't get rid of Facebook is because I have foreign friends whose only way to keep in touch with me is through messenger.

  2. Christopher Aakre says:

    SOCIAL MEDIA: Volunteer all your personal information and they give you a sense of connection. I did find many people that I had lost contact with. IN fact I never met with any of them. We texted back and forth however no conversation had any real future value. Fact is: Communication is mostly body language. Thats a known fact right? I think the best question you could ask yourself before you throw trust to the media is: Why would they care about me? ONE REASON ONLY: They can make a money from me.
    I'm off FB and LI. It took about six months to where I don't think about it. What have I lost? About 2100 friends of which 221 I actually had life experience with. Of those I have seen 12 in the last decade. All this is not really important. What I think is important is how much is time is lost to distraction. The time you have in front of people right in front of you and the quality of that relationship.

  3. Focus4ward biz says:

    nice video here

  4. Guilherme † says:

    I’ve permanently deleted my instagram account years ago, haven’t used Facebook for years, only used it a couple months in 2018 for political purposes. I still have the account but it’s disactivated. I hardly ever login in into Twitter also. AAAAND… I’m completely better off without it!!!!

  5. Rodrigo Cortez says:

    I've quit Facebook and Instagram around 2 months ago. And it's been the best thing, I can concentrate on myself it's really been a lot more productive. I have to say tho, that there's a disadvantage on the side of events and what's going on party wise. Most of the people and bars spread their news though Facebook and Instagram and that part has been the hardest

  6. PhyZeik says:

    7 minutes in and he still hasn't said anything of importance or of revelation. What a waste of time

  7. I Control My Fate says:

    The only social media i use is youtube, but i can confirm, that giving up facebook was one of the best things I could have done for my self esteem and confidence. I felt inadequate because i didnt have many friends, and it would sting when someone i thought liked me unfriended me. Now Im free of all that.

  8. NICHI says:

    I tried to quit but couldn't do it, yet

  9. Brandon Vecchio says:

    I think the key is moderation. I keep Twitter, not going on except to check messages, Snapchat and messenger to keep open channels of communication. YouTube is like google to me in some ways so I’ll never give that up

  10. NaishedhKumar says:

    its now 1 year, completed , I quit SM – FB TW INSTA ….all

  11. Jennifer Devlin says:

    I joined a social media platform around 9 years ago and I feel that it is not worth my time. In total agreement with the gentleman about all forms of social media.

  12. p says:

    Antisocial media.

  13. Sunil Kumar says:

    Sir I deleted my Facebook Instagram accounts after watching this video. I am going to read all your books. Thank you for making a difference.😊

  14. San Francisco says:

    I'm with this guy. Does he have a twitter account ? If not, I like how he pawns off the comments that he will never read.

  15. concept1027 says:

    Good stuff overall.. but I think he misinterpreted use of social media for career advancement. It’s useful as a way to stay present and present work, not literally as a tool implemented as part of your work abilities. Artists- for instance- get commissions directly via social media. They get featured by curation accounts and go on to develop a fan base which leads to clout/jobs/etc. this comes up for many careers.

  16. Femi Xeenat says:

    I quit fb a year ago, life is really peaceful without it! 💃

  17. Monique Williams says:

    Thank you Cal.

  18. Dominik Szewior says:

    Social media are not "good or bad". For some they are just the toys. For others – tools. It all boils down to YOU. If you drink a glass of wine from time to time there's nothing wrong with that. If you get wasted every day – you have a problem. The problem is in YOU looking inside the bottle too often – not in the content of that bottle.

  19. Sophie Clinnick says:

    I’ve quit Facebook – not looking back. Best decision ever. Instagram and YouTube is harder. I justify YouTube because I use it to learn though.

  20. Peter Simpson says:

    Never done any of them thank god. Data mining and propaganda platforms , that's all they are

  21. Tushar G says:

    Very thoughtful and fact based talk Sir. Well said, Salute for saying thruth without any hesitation. Awesome.

  22. cyrine tekaya says:

    I quit social media because it affects my mental health and body image . it also caused a lot of anxiety , I was obsessed with how many followers I have and how many likes I have and if I don't reach a certain rate then I start to think that I'm not worth the validation because I don't fit the certain image of what is always shown . so it's either no social media account or zero followers and likes .

  23. Fala Crow says:

    Just a note my comment is a general statement it’s not strictly regarding statements made in the video.

    I strongly disagree with quitting social media. That would cause more problems than good in my opinion. I also disagree with a lot of people’s negativity towards social media. Reality is social media is more good than bad. The ability to concentrate has been a problem long before social media. I also challenge the idea that humans aren’t made for the level connection that social media provides. Humans can more than handle what social media brings. The problem with a lot of people is not taking the time to learn how to regulate or adjust to new ways. We lead with fear of these new things than tackling the issue, and mastering it.

    If you choose to quit social media and feel things have gotten better, by all means good for you. But things got better for me with social media and self discipline than it did without. I would rather adjust to the new way and find balance in that way than blaming social media or demonising it when it’s not the problem. The problem lies with lack of self discipline in people. Learn to regulate yourself, learn to monitor where you spending your time online, learn to avoid certain groups and pages online. Also, don’t use your social media pages when you aren’t supposed to be using them. I don’t get why that’s a problem. I’ve been in meetings at work and have used my phone without going to any social media pages during the meeting. If that is hard for you, that sounds like a self discipline issue not social media. I would also suggest turning off you notifications for your social media apps and only check messages when you have the right time. Once I started doing these things, I realised that there is a lot positivity going on online and my self discipline improved. I also find that I was more distracted by the things outside of social media than social media. Television for example is more distracting than social media. While not scientific, I tested myself. I went without social media for a week, and not much of anything changed except I got a little bored. I went without television for the same amount of time and my mind cleared up, my emotions balanced out, and my concentration improved. I felt great. So, even in limited social media, I weeded out social media as the problem.

    I would also challenge that reading books is better, actually there as many cons with books as well. Due to there not being much censorship, a lot of the reading material being put out there for centuries are riddled with false and harmful information that has lead to issues with a lot of people’s life choices and mental health. They have stirred up anxiety, ego problems, etc… For this reason, it’s the person’s responsibility to regulate. Learn what to read and learn what to stay away from. The same applies to social media, I stay away from certain things online and I also avoid picking my phones at times.

    One thing I don’t have problems with at work is focusing on my work. As a musician, when you’re in the studio you need to be present and get your job done. I rarely touch my phone in the studio unless I’m checking the time. And most musicians I work with rarely use their phones too. Typically my hours range from 5-12 hours sessions. We are too busy working.

    Conclusion, quitting social media isn’t the solution nor a good one. Social is more good than bad. Human ego and fear hasn’t changed since social media. If anything these problems were exposed more greatly by social media. Which means we to fix what has been wrong for a long time. So, it is better to find balance with it than running from it. If for whatever reason certain people just can’t handle it, then they should quit, but most people benefit more from it than suffer any bad.

  24. Leila Yahia says:

    Do you mean massenger & what's upp too??

  25. Gina Stumpf says:

    I've put my Facebook on deletion mode. Yesterday, I had put my Snapchat on deletion and I had removed my Instagram app. The urges that you had described with the withdrawals, are 100% true. The only problem for me would be is that I always feel like, I am missing out on a lot of things and events.

  26. Eddie9881 says:

    YT as Social Media is less harm cuz it’s more content focused and not interaction focused

  27. Fredy Mendez says:

    The most difficult part about quitting for me is being in a public setting such as restaurant or bar and waiting on someone or simply by yourself and wanting to go on social media to escape the feeling of being by myself in a public setting. People do this all the time in a party or being with a group of ppl and feeling awkward so we go to our phones

  28. milti hades says:

    They created social media to make people antisocial, to reduce the human ability to thing and to be creative.

  29. Anil waiba Tamang says:

    Where is subtitles

  30. Ayanava Bag says:

    I listen to this ted talk and instantly deleted my instagram account

  31. paul salang says:

    Very good 100%

  32. Manuel Ponce says:

    I quit Facebook Yesterday 09-12-2019. I actually feel better. I’m away from all that drama.

  33. Chinthaka Dilushan says:

    I tried saving my friends from the addiction of social media. But, non of them is listening to a word I say.
    They believe that somebody has to have social media accounts to be a part of the society.

  34. NaijaGuy says:

    I left YouTube six years ago. I have never returned ever then.😉

  35. Erik Schiegg says:

    Quit society standards, this I got to smell the pack and I got to see their smile cult and attitude.

  36. Rocky Rizzo's Rocky Road says:

    I have a much fuller life without facebook! Ive managed to keep touch with those who matter and the rest never were REAL friends anyway.

  37. Shania Bahl says:

    Social media is great, and it does help us connect, to be honest. I mean I've got family and friends in different countries an if it weren't for social media I would have no connection with them and forgotten so much. The problem is that we have abused it you know. Now we don't just use social media to connect we use it as entertainment, verification, to "fit in". Its become more of an obsession for mostly everyone if we want to admit it or not. It's taken so much time away from us one minute we just checked to see if we got any messages and the next thing we know we have been on it for 20 minutes endlessly scrolling through Instagram and you are late to work or school. The idea of social media is great but it comes with too many negatives and that have ended up controlling us rather than we controlling the device.

  38. Heartbreak Art says:

    The best Ted talk ever, though it's ironic that I'm watching it on social media?!

  39. nanceicecream sunnyday says:

    I quit every social media but there’s one a can’t quit: youtube. It’s true I feel fresh since I erase all of the others I was addicted. I’m considering getting rid of YouTube too, but it’s at least educational

  40. Algeo Obseo says:

    Youtube is not a social media (anymore)!

  41. Aditya Sarkar says:

    I deleted my Instagram and facebook but I just need to stop people sharing status in WhatsApp without deleting their contacts it's impossible mate

  42. Aditya Sarkar says:

    I deleted my Instagram and facebook but I just need to stop people sharing status in WhatsApp without deleting their contacts it's impossible mate

  43. Michael Enns says:

    I start right NOW.

  44. Joe Hernandez says:

    Still holding a grudge because Zuckerberg invented it and not him.

  45. The bio experiment says:

    Why is Mark Zuckerberg pointing a gun at me?

  46. Mfundo Butshingi says:

    I'm quiting my social media as we speak….

  47. prudhvi raj says:

    2019: u can't live without Facebook.
    Me: fckoff i deleted fb my account
    now in peace ✌️

  48. Hi Hi says:

    How hot is the speaker wowwwww

  49. Isaac Hokama says:

    In order for this video to be known to your world, it has to be posted on YouTube, AKA a form of SOCIAL MEDIA. Also, I use social media to communicate with people that I must reach that I cannot via telephone number. 😮

  50. Rob Thecat says:


  51. Neppo says:

    My current state is somewhat… complicated.
    I use YouTube to watch courses related to my future activities that are essential for my long-term success.
    I really want to quit YouTube but i don't think it would leave a positive result on my life.

  52. KAT M says:

    I only post occasionally on my Facebook but every single time I post in my Facebook I feel like I'm showing off.

  53. Nik Dud says:

    Welp just deleted Facebook and Snapchat!!hopefully I get through the 30 day deactivation process without reactivating it lol

  54. Iris Serrano says:

    The moment I quit fb and IG I felt a huge relief, like 2000 pounds taken out from me, omg, don't have to pretend anymore feels so good. It really is an attention drug and I was addicted. It really destroyed my life until I finaly understood it. No more.

  55. Sophia Parco says:

    to give an update. i just deactivated my Instagram today. I wanna see how it will help lessen my anxieties.

  56. mytube92369 says:

    I am not into social media at all but YouTube is my daily avenue.

  57. Suka Ngitung Mr Hite says:

    Left hand position hold pocket.. seen not polite. Sorry.

  58. AJ Truss says:

    I used to have an addiction to social media (23 year old male just graduated college). What made me quit was when I reconnected with a bunch of college buddies and we went out for our birthdays and pretty much everyone was just on their phone or trying to take snaps and stories of the entire night rather than just enjoying the night and being in the moment. Everyone is so focused on making it look like they had a good night instead of actually just having a good night. So I got rid of my instagram and snapchat and I hardly use Facebook if ever. It's weird seeing how many people are addicted to making their lives look good instead of it actually being good. I pray for the future generations because suicide anxiety and depression are just going to run rampant.

  59. Erin Kilpatrick says:

    Social media addiction is just like a drug addiction. Drug addicts gts with a high or they don’t people on social media are on it before gts if not on it all night. Drug addicts wake up and need to get high people who are addicted to social media wake up to check what’s going on their pages you see where I’m going.

  60. Erin Kilpatrick says:

    Social media addiction is worse than drug addiction

  61. Alexandros Papadopoulos says:

    In my opinion he is right in almost everything, although if you manage to use them right, social media can become a powerful tool in terms of communicating, finding ideas and opinions, marketing and promoting your business etc… Managing to use them right though is reaaaaly hard..

  62. Cibron Nethis says:

    Once I went to a guided tour organized through Facebook. There I saw a beautiful girl, whom I later found on this Event page on Facebook. That turned out to be my greatest love and relationship.
    Will I consider quitting Social Media? Probably yes. Do I regret using it? Definitely not. In fact, I'm grateful for it.

  63. Brian Robles says:

    Should I delete Instagram if I only use it to laugh at memes? I never post

  64. G K says:

    Aww does that mean I can’t watch my favorite YouTube fart pranks!!??

  65. BRIAN SCHULTZ says:

    His first point sounds like a knock against capitalism than social media. Walmart is also trying to maximize profits.

    His second point I don't even care to address.

    Finally, his third point I can see. Sometimes I cannot get off Twitter. It's hard. I give him that. All the same, I am not convinced to quit social media.

  66. Aswathy K V says:

    I quit facebook

  67. isabel nelson says:

    I deleted my Facebook and twitter a while ago, but I find it harder to let go of my Instagram or snapchat because I want to keep in touch with people

  68. dumitru edelean says:

    I feel so much better since I quit social media! It's amazing!

  69. Daniel Lee says:

    Without social media, I wouldn't have found this vid.. 🤔

  70. Andrew Rivera says:

    I quit fb about a year now and i feel having a wonderful life living simply with my own way vey private.

  71. Mo Has A YouTube Channel says:

    After the Ted Talks he ironically creates a twitter profile.

  72. Jacob Smith says:

    the problem of social media is you won't pay attention to something more important because you're keep on reading comments 😁.

  73. Scott Johnson says:

    I quit all social media 5 months ago. I’ve never been happier.
    No anxiety
    No depression
    Life’s great 🤗

  74. Seth Lin says:

    What I really HATE about social media is when I get unfriended or blocked or ghosted by a social media friend. To me, I feel it's like a knife stabbed into my heart & severely cause me to have depression when I get unfriended/blocked/ghosted. When I used social media, besides having an addiction of getting validation from my social media friends from my postings, I also have an addiction in having my social media friends list getting bigger & bigger. Thus, when I noticed my friends list suddenly gets smaller (even by 1 person short), I decided to stalk who unfriended/blocked/ghosted me. Of course, that resulted me to have bad behavior: stalker/harassment to find who is in my definition, I defined as a "traitor" when they unfriended/blocked/ghosted me & then harassing them to re-add me back to their friends list.

    Because that bad behavior of mine started to get out of hand due to my issues with social media, I later realize it's best for me to completely delete my social media profile & stay away from it as much as I can. So I did. Deleting all my social media profiles like Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, etc… wasn't easy for me at first. But exactly like what this video describes: after couple weeks or so, I DID felt a sense of freedom. Because I no longer have a social media profile, I no longer have the feel to have the want to seek validation or popularity & add more people into my friends list.

    Deleting my social media profiles is the BEST decision I ever made! I was able to feel much more Happy when I'm no longer in social media. As an introverted person, I'm not really sociable, but I do want friends. However, based from my experiences with social media, social media is not a good way to really make friends… After deleting my social media, I starting to practice meditation & when I finally find my REAL happiness, I realized, sometimes it's best to be happy alone & accepting the way life is, than forcing myself to make friends & seek validation. With this, I see the real happiness in me & it makes me able to do well in my work. I also realized that in 24 hours in a day, there's really not enough time to be in social media anyways.

    I've been "social media sober" since late 2018 last year & hope to remain social media sober as long as I can.

  75. Sarah Hamdan says:

    I won't quit toutube because I learn so much from it ,but I make sure I am not watching meaningless content.. I don't have tiktok or facebook , and I use instagram and twitter brieflly because there are some ibspirational people on there that are trying to spread a good message, I don't personally post anything ,and I think it is all about moderation…
    And be careful not to allow it wast your time..

  76. Alia,S says:

    Totally agree! I cant agree anymore!

  77. Logan says:

    We must not blame the tool itself but rather its user, it is like cars, it is not that there are deaths that it is the fault of the car itself

  78. Basha Grand says:

    In 2017 I quit snapchat, and two days ago, I quit Instagram and Facebook as a test… I feel that I will get happier and better.

  79. Lee says:

    I believe if you moderate your social media usage you can live with it, as well as live a full life.

  80. I'm A Warr;or says:

    Take me back to 1993, I was really happy trust me.

  81. john ward says:

    I quit it all but youtube a year ago. I do not miss it.

  82. Sashank Neupane says:

    The question is not why should we quit it rather it is how we quit it.

  83. Sashank Neupane says:

    I will return back to this video after a year and say, "yes, I did it.."

  84. Raniel Pangilinan says:

    Social media is like you're floating on a lava while it says "Social Media is life."

  85. Anita says:

    Social media is good for keeping in touch with your friends from school whom you maybe lost contact with and finding out about events happening in the city etc… But in a way it does have a negative impact and I feel that personally. Posting stories on daily basis has become a necessity for most. You want to share those memories with you friends and family in real life. Sometimes people are afraid to approach you as you appear too much of a high profile online and always look busy to hang out with friends. This alone is a big problem. Social media is creating a world where our lives are so perfect and even in reality we no longer want to share the difficult times with friends because they only want to hear the highlights and the success stories. So in a way we are forced to create a persona to please others all the time and not by choice but approval of others. I wish I could live in the 90s again when we used to find out what is happening in friends life by physically being there and communicating in person.

  86. Mark DiPino says:

    Social media is a carefully and selectively edited slice of our lives, a false representation of our true self, a personal illusion shared for attention, acceptance and validation to feed our insecurities and ego.

  87. aboutblank says:

    Bunch of phonies . Lets go back to pay phones and cassette tapes !

  88. Elana Governor says:

    I deleted my Instagram yesterday. Mind you I probably made about 5 accounts in my life time that I made and I would eventually delete. I was tired of feeling like people were watching my every move ,stalking me,judging me, making fake accounts to contact me because they could hide behind them. I felt like I was missing out on spending time with my daughter who would see me consumed by the madness . I would be arguing about Instagram or arguing on Instagram or finding something on ig that upsetting me . I’ve tried to do modeling and clothing when it came to Instagram trying to use it as a platform . But realized it was a popularity contest and it was all about how many followers you had . It started to make my head hurt . I felt like I lost sleep . I lost myself . I’ve had Twitter, Snapchat, tumblr, Facebook . I deleted all of those because either it was drama filled or time consuming . Why is social media called social media when your staring at phone the whole time instead of socializing with real people around you ?

  89. Positive Mentality says:

    You are rare lmao . And compare to a unicorn? Hahah

  90. Positive Mentality says:

    He salty af

  91. DrummerJacob says:

    YouTube is social media. It's funny how the only way anyone would ever receive this message about quitting social media is through social media.

    So, the lesson is: You should quit your best source of modern day information. No thanks. I'll just use it and everything else in moderation and keep my personality in check, which is what my parents already taught me to do.

  92. Team X-po says:

    Or install an app like Daywise, where you can schedule all your phone notifications, which aids in unbroken concentration and productivity.

  93. Rayn muller says:

    The strongest drug that exists for a human being is another human being.

  94. Ashlee Brown says:

    This was surprisingly really good! I learn so much on social media but it is also a major distraction too. Womp womp

  95. Gino Esmeria says:

    Without social media i can't watch you and Ted Talks.

  96. Valerio Bacchin says:

    Un riassunto dio can

  97. Dani Happy Farms Louisiana says:

    watching this again after almost 3 years off Facebook and one year off the "less harmless but owned by the same company": Instagram. I have more time for the things I am focusing on! I am happier because I am not comparing my life to others. Their clean house, their sweet spouse sending flowers..beach vacation. Nope. My "circle" feels A LOT smaller, but it feels real.

  98. Pierce Jorgensen says:

    If you look at the crowd a few of these people were looking at their phones instead of the lecture.

  99. music cliche says:

    Selling the idea to quit waht everybody is doing is rare, but is it really valuable?

  100. Eduardo L says:

    Wow youtube is paying Ted Talk for my view and Im getting nothing only thanks for watching and anxiois depressed etc

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